No very small animal can be beautiful,
for looking at it takes so small a portion of time
that the impression of it will be confused.
Nor can any very large one,
for a whole view of it cannot be had at once,
and so there will be no unity and completeness.”
Our first, second and even third impressions of people are often not what they seem. You can’t build a relationship on an impression, nor should you judge a book by it’s cover or by the book review of another. Read the book yourself! If you base your impression on knowledge given by someone else then you are making a judgment of the book before even reading it.
People are the same way. Relationships are built on trust, honesty, truth, love, grace, peace, compassion, joy, humility & forgiveness. Relationships take time, work, grace, time, work, grace…get it? They aren’t easy. We should never judge our relationship, with one another, based on the relationship of someone else with us. It won’t be the same.
I think that’s called judging.
The best thing to do is to read the book ( person) yourself. Open it up, get to know it, take your time reading it, pause and reflect and read it again. Do this over and over and over again and when you think you’re done, do it some more! Life is a process. No one is perfect.
Don’t judge people. Get to know them. We all have junk. It’s called LIFE. It comes in bits and pieces-sort of like a butterfinger bar when you bite it-all crumbly, sweet and chewy as long as your teeth are all okay! LOL
Take time to savor the flavor and pick up the crumbs!